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Tuesday, September 05, 2006

Friendship...........................& love

Friendship is a word that brings a mix of memories into all our minds, some good one's some bad and some so bitter that you would never want to remember about them and so on.... For me friends are those set of people on whom i have relied all my life. Maybe cause i didn't have much trouble to mingle with people or maybe because i am used to having someone with me as a dear one all my life. All my life i have had friends with me as people who have supported me, listened to me, cared for me, solved my problems and a lot more. But then being a friend is not about doing all this, its about sharing those moments in your life that you can't share with anyone else; be it your parents, your siblings or even your girl/boy friends.

The moments that i have spent with my friends are among the most treasured one's in my life till now. I am quite sure that they will also feel the same about that too. But then the relevance of having friends is not just as a backup to rely on when we suffer from problems, they are also people who should be with us during our good times more than our bad times, because friends are people who are with you when the whole world is up in arms against you.

Why does one have friends?? There has to be something that lacks in all other relations that makes us go in search of a relation called friendshp. Now what can be the options and values that a friend provides but then a parent or a sibling fails to give. For one the small things that we can tell a friend can never be told to a parent or siblings. Maybe at times siblings can be the best of chums and can be trusted with any kind of secret. But that's not the case for every one. I know of bro's n sister's who look at each other like enemies and would do anything to show the other in a bad light. Now the things that we share with our friends are mostly related to our lifestyle and at MOST times it will be about this boy/girl that you are interested in. Now friends can act as messengers or lookouts for that intimate relation to mushroom into something that finally makes you go away from your friends.

I wouldn't call love as a relation, i would prefer it as a feeling. Maybe due to my personal experiences. But then love has always been a feeling for me and it is that feeling that begins with a friendship and then crosses limits of friendship and causes such deep impressions in your heart that you can't think of anything else other than the person you love. Most times this results in people having bad grades and having problems with your friends. But for me it's always resulted in a vigour to perform at my best, it maybe to show myself in a good light or maybe just to prove that i am better than anyone else. This is why love's always a feeling that's been good to me.

Love is a relation that's so beautiful, yet can turn so ugly at times.

This floods my mind with memories of previous relations, yea RELATIONS :P. To be precise broken relations. Someone once said, it's good for friendship to end as love but love ending in friendship is a disaster. For me both have worked equally well and if i were to have my pick i will say the love ending in friendship was much much better than the friendships that ended in love and finally broke off altogether.

For this i will like to confess something here. There have been instances where i have befriended a girl just to see if the above mentioned statement works for me and to my surprise it did work at times. But then as any unsucessfull lover will say, "The right girl for me hasn't come across me till now" maybe cause this is the only dialog to say when you are shattered and there's no one to bring you up. These are times when you hate the relation called love and vow never to go after it again. The vow may last months, but most times it just holds true until you see the girl who proves that butterfly effect is a fact. The flutter of her eyelids can cause a chain reaction in your heart and mind that will end only the day you propose to that girl.

But then what's the use, one day she will dump you for the next best guy. The solution: Never fall in love.

For the optimist there's another solution too: Be the best guy in town

Now decide which side you wanna be with.

7 comments:

sindhya said...

gud blog.

Deepa said...

a lot of personal analysis here! well..a gud 1! do u hav any1 particularly in mind?! u sound as u r in a confusion!!

Ananthalekshmy said...

u were cnfsd wat 2 write n how 2 continue....bt,this seems u'v taken pains 2 reveal sumthng abt urselves,at the same time,not rlly doing so......mayb,intentionally.....bt,u r cnfsd....tho i donno wat xactly it is...

Abhi said...

Well to Deepa and to Ananthalekshmy, get this STRAIGHT.

AM NOT CONFUSED!

Aparna said...

good one. i think u are doin a self analysis these days :D. otherwise u cdn't be possibly writin so clear abt ur views abt love and frndship. wht u talked abt frndship is true, and i think u are such a good frnd to all ur chums...
i dont think u hav to conclude soo fast sayin that "never fall in love"!! and one thing i hav to say is that it got over soo soon! i mean u cd hav ritten more!!!

Hari said...

a real good blog da !! the way u delat the two topic which is seperated by a thin line is too good da !! keep up the good work !! But " dont fall in lov" dya think this is the rite way to end wat u wer sayin so well !!

-: :Abhi: :- said...

Well...Platonic Friendship is one of the tuffest thing to maintain...And having one is the best thing that can ever happen for you. Somebody to listen to u...even if the person knws ur talking utter crap...listens to u with the Most Interest...Yea..u really dun need to fall in Luv to Live..Seriously...Live life..Khul ke jiyo!!! I agree with u...